Sorry, redhead40, to talk as though you're not here for a minute but:

Lixy, I think redhead40 is perfectly happy for his guy to 'have a woman' from time to time, but group sex is a whole different kettle of fish isn't it......I mean you wouldn't be surprised if Mr Lixy wanted another woman (I mean he's straight after all) but that doesn't mean you'd be happy with him actually having her, and probably even less so if he brought her into your bed and asked you to make love to her (since you're straight, after all).

It's the same animal, in my opinion, and I think redhead40 shows considerable maturity and selflessness to be comfortable with his open relationship with his man....having had some sexual experience with women, perhaps redhead40 would describe himself as bi-curious (or maybe "hetero-curious"! LOL) but it's still a nerve wracking step.....particularly as I'm sure his concerns lie in discovering a previously unexplored aspect of his sexuality, not wanting to put his hitherto healthy relationship at risk, and also not wanting to put his lover's relationship with the lady in question at risk either.

I certainly don't think that redhead40 even has any desire to 'turn' his man, even if it were possible and as a gay man, I'm sure he has even more insight into the fact that it's impossible to 'turn' someone than we straight (or bi-curious, in my case) women do.

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