This pass weekend at my brother's wedding, my cousin and I found ourselves in an interesting discussion. We argue that still despite modern achievement of women, there still remains a lot of women who are not sexually aggressive to approach men and ask them out...or even to just have a f...!

Its getting better that women are finding more and more freedom as per this site, Pixies. Yet still are those ladies who feel better if they are approached first? Could, can or will you ladies just ask a fella here at Pixies or in your home towns, out for dates or encounters?

If someone is a "new" lover or a recent find, I typically do not ask first. I do believe in chivarly and I prefer the man to make the first move. However, if he is someone I know quite well....I have absolutely no issues being the aggressor.

I know it's a funny double standard, but there it is.

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I think men talk to women so they can sleep with them and women sleep with men so they can talk to them. ~ Jay McInerney

Upon further consideration...if a guy makes the first move, I have *absolutely* no issues making the second, third, and fourth move.

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Life is too short not to love and be loved....preferably multiple times in one night.

I think men talk to women so they can sleep with them and women sleep with men so they can talk to them. ~ Jay McInerney

Interestingly enough I've had 4 women who made the move on me first... unfortunately the trend sort of died out.... damn and I was just getting to love it too.

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As to marriage or celibacy, let a man take which course he will. He will be sure to repent - Socrates

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I think it kind of depends on what you call "making the move" since a lot of psychological studies show that women do make the first move .... with eye contact or a smile which is a silent signal to a man that they are interested and approachable.

Having said that, if I want to have sexual chat with a guy, then I've been known to say so first .... but in real life, no .... but that is partly my age and upbringing I think, and partly that I need to know a bit about a guy before I'd ever make a move and by that time, he's either made a move or he's involved elsewhere.

".... but in real life, no .... but that is partly my age and upbringing I think,...." (Fzzy)

I was waiting for someone to bring that up that age and upbringing plays a part in how our roles are assigned to us. Sadly I am of the "older school" but have had the pleasure of an "old school" lady make the first move. But those are so rare. But I've notice in the younger generations women being more and more aggressive.