As i don't cyber a "cyber relationship" will just not happen...too much of a hands on type of girl i'm afraid

If the "cyber relationship" was going on without my knowledge and i found out about it....you bet your ass i'd class it as cheating!!

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Hmmmmm........interesting ....any more thoughts on this subject???

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"Never shall I forget the time I spent with you. Please
continue to be my friend, as you will always find me yours."
Ludwig van Beethoven (1770-1827)

"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away."

Cheating to me would constitute my s/o doing something he wouldn't be comfortable knowing I was doing. Example? He wouldn't be happy with me kissing another man, so he shouldn't be kissing another woman unless I've given him the ok. By keeping this "treat other people the way you want to be treated" philosophy my hubby and I have avoided some relationship crippling situations.

Jenny
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way, and the only way, it does not exist." ~Friedrich Nietzsche

This is Great thread............I see some very intelligent answers and I agee with most. I would never be in a relationship if cheating was involved and that goes for me.

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Cheating..

Doing anything sexual or intimate with anyone besides your signifiant other...

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Wow... Funny isn't it? How you think Love has finally found you..... But at a whim it withers and blows away...

Without the knowledge

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I am one of the lucky ones!!

I have found the love of my life, and have a very special relationship with him. We were best friends before we got together, and still are after 9 years of being committed.
While we are committed to each other, we have an open relationship and we swing as well.
We understand the limits as we have set them. We never feel we are cheating.. as long as there is not an emotional bond with another person.
Physical intimacy I can deal with. Emotional... no way!! We both feel we couldn't deal with that. I wouldn't want him emotionally involved with someone else. To care about them the way he does about me. To share what we share.

Anything that is done in secret is cheating.

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My 2 cents worth, if no one minds.

Cheating is a physical act between 2 people in the same location acting together.

I don't consider cyber cheating because its not done by 2 people in the same place. Saying that it is cheating is kinda like saying that looking at pictures and masterbating, is cheating. You are using that as your form of mental stimulation used to achieve orgasm.

My wife considers cybering cheating. So needless to say we disagree, and of course that means that she doesnt know about Pixies.

My husband and I have both been intimate with other people, but it was never and will never be a secret, the only thing I felt guilty about was the lack of guilt while doing it! But if he was even hanging out with someone else and hiding that from me, I would naturally be jealous, he knows he should just ask, I usually have no problem with anything he's up for. Besides, most of the time it's harmless flirting, and since I love to go out and flirt too then I can understand that need.

I do believe it all depends on the person and their relationship. As our relationship grows, so do we, and as we change, so does it, so all this may seem obsurd years down the road.

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More thoughts:

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Just my two cents.....

I have read through all of the postings so far. To most I would have to agree, some I have to disagree.

How many of the people out there remember when people used to call a guys job his mistress. Why? Because it took time away from the people that he said he loved. Devoted his time to something other than his family and it would cause problems.

If you are doing something behind someone back, to me that whole constitutes cheating. I used to have alot of friends that would say....."My S/O wouldn't mind". But they never told them to allow them to make their own decision.

You can't say that just because nothing physical happening. To many people have been totally dependant on their online fling. They tell people that they are thinking of them when they are with their S/O in bed, envisioning them doing all of the normal things together even. In some areas that is worse than going out for a one night stand that you will never see again. Because you are giving that person yourself, not just having something happen then nothing ever again. If you are going online every single day to see how the person is doing and cyber with them. Yes I would say that is cheating in a sense.

Like I said, just my 2 cents. And to quote one of the other postings. If you don't think it is cheating, tell your S/O, let them make up their own mind of what they think it is.

This is definitely an interesting thread...and points out the many definitions a word or phrase can take on.

I am also very lucky in that I am in a situation that is pretty open. I have both a husband *and* a s/o (s/o and I have been involved off and on for the last 12+ years) and each is comfortable with the other and their place in my life. I have also had some temporary physical relationships in between.

Therefore, in my world, "cheating" really involves a situation in which my husband doesn't know, which rarely, if ever, occurs. I am very up front and honest with my husband in *all* situations...and thus, no feelings are hurt. Plus, by communicating in advance, if any boundaries have been crossed (and so far they haven't), adjustments can be made.

In my humble opinion, cheating involves deception--which can occur on many levels for many different people.

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I use to believe that cheating wa wrong and totally pointless. Why be in a relationship if you are gonna cheat? Well, now that I am married, I wonder if I can only be w/ my husband for the rest of our lives?

I think I should have thought of that BEFORE the vows were exchanged though....

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I don't really want to discuss politics here, but I couldn't resist this one. When someone is elected to lead a nation they have a responsibility to the citizens. I think that whatever Hillary was willing to put up with is okay for their marriage, but not for our nation. The American people were definately cheated in this case!

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