06-12-2003, 02:12 AM
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Mrs FussyPucker
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Join Date: Jan 2003
Location: England
Posts: 3,635
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Originally posted by Irish
My s/o knows about this site.I have showed her some threads,
that,I thought,she would be interested in.I don't go around bragging or shouting pixies name.The only thing that my wife
doesn't know about is,the "open-ness"with which I share with
some of the women here.She is a very jealous&posessive person
&would not understand,the frank discussions about masturbation,
etc.As far as underlying problems in our relationship-We have been married since May1,1965.38 yrs!As Jenna said,Everyone is
different.Mutual respect takes care of problems! Irish
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I agree entirely Irish: mutual respect IS the key. And the fact that you have not kept the existence of Pixies from your SO is an example of that mutual respect. You respect her enough not to keep things from her, and she respects your privacy and your choices enough not to have a problem with you coming here.
I'm not suggesting that people should tell everyone exactly what they say and do here at Pixies, but it saddens me that a number of people here say 'My SO isn't into this stuff' without actually giving them the opportunity to a) find out if that's the case and b) speak for themselves.
I suppose I just have this vision in my head of lots of people here at Pixies wishing that their SOs were more like Pixie-people (more open etc) while their SOs are suffering in silence, perhaps even visiting another similar site, wishing the same thing. And the reason I feel like this, is that I've been in that situation myself.
In the past I've made the mistake of hiding my true sexuality from my partner and he's hidden his from me.......it was symptomatic of a lack of trust and communication in our relationship, and I strongly believe that if one of us had taken that leap of faith first, things may not have ended the way they did. Of course, I don't regret the end of the relationship, but I do regret the fact that it was fear that held us both back. It's not a situation I intend to get into again.
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