My wife knows I lurke / visit and on occasions will join me on the puter to look at pics etc. She thinks it is fine as we all need our own inspiration and / or outlet for relieif.
She would rather know that i would jack off in front of the computer to a fantasy situation with a woman, than play around with the "real thing "on her. She has even told her friends about the site......
Likewise I have no problem with her looking at sites with muscle bound men in tip top shape (wwe etc ) as I know that I will be the one she spends the night with...........